Keep the main things in mind.
There is only now. The past is done and you cannot change it. The future is unwritten and you cannot control it. There is your current physical and mental state and there is what is before you, that is your entire world. That is all anyone has — ever.
No one “knows” anything. The more an expert learns about a thing the more they realize they are only scratching the surface. The more you learn the less, you realize, you actually know. Only the truly ignorant go about with certainty.
So we don’t know anything and for each and every one of us we only exist in the current moment and place. What do you want from life? What do you want from now? Since none of us knows anything we are all living in a fantasy world of our own making or we are experiencing a world someone else imposed on us. When someone tries to impose a reality on you that you do not like, leave.
This dilemma is so poignantly pointed out by Pink Floyd in their wonderful song Welcome to the Machine. The lyric, “What did you dream? It’s alright we told you what to dream.” says it all.
So what do you want to be? What do you want to feel? Be that. Now.
Do you want to be proud? Then start taking pride in everything you do. Easy.
Do you want to be rich? Start living below your means and then you will always have cash. Just remember you can’t have your cake and eat it too. I like money so I hold on to it. Most seem to hate it and get rid of the nasty stuff as soon as it comes near them. Some making hundreds of thousands of dollars per year are always broke and “behind” and struggling. Others making tens of thousands of dollars stay ahead of the game and always have money and are relaxed. Those better at handling their money are comfortable and can more so do what they want when they want. Those people are rich.
Do you want a great love? Then love greatly. Give. If you want all the presents only for yourself then you are a cold ugly selfish person. If you delight and are warmed by the excited look of other people opening gifts then you are a warm and beautiful and giving person. If you want a great love then love greatly.
The world could be such a happy carefree fun and loving place, but the plain truth is that people simply refuse to go ahead and do it.