My wife Cathy and I took a 30-question survey about The 5 Love Languages. If you click that link you can take the test and I recommend that you and your partner both take it. It might seem stupid at first, particularly for a guy, but I do think it provides something of genuine value.
I’ve not read the book and don’t intend to. I have no relation, business or otherwise, with the author Gary Chapman. But what will come to light from taking this short questionnaire are needs that are important to you and your loved one that might not be being met.
The Five Love Languages are:
- Words of Affirmation
- Acts of Service
- Receiving Gifts
- Quality Time
- Physical Touch
I do think it is of value between each other to know that one of you takes great joy in receiving little surprise gifts, or encouragement with what you are doing, or have a need to be touched as a part of regular communication quite apart from sex. This is not about sex but it is about how you like and need to relate.
These are the little things that mean a lot and it can also bring to the surface what you don’t like so much. It’s not just a stupid test but it most certainly is a little intervention and even a boost of self-awareness to what is needed and desired in the relationship.
A literal pat on the back or even a little desired participation thinking through a blog idea are examples of things that might come to light. It won’t hurt and it just might help. The little “test” is not about compatibility so much as a means of communicating your needs.
We found it more than amusing.